You'd be amazed at how much money and value is coming to you constantly from different avenues that you weren't even aware of! In the first week or so it might have just been little things, like finding 50 cents on the floor or getting $1.00 off my favourite wine at the supermarket, but just like exercising a muscle at the gym, writing in my abundance book every day trained me to actively look for value in my life - and that focus brought more and more in. People offered to buy me a glass of wine or a cup of coffee. Friends would lend me books that I was about to go out and buy. My partner randomly brought me home flowers! - and as you saw at the top of this newsletter, I was invited to be part of an amazing complimentary lunch experience all courtesy of the amazing team over at lululemon christchurch.
Like I said, it started small, and a bit like working out at the gym, for the first month I didn't feel like I saw any big changes. About 5 weeks in though, I definitely felt the effects start to snowball. It started to become really fun, like a game I wanted to win at, and it got me to think outside the box about how I could add more value to the world as well. How could I use my talents to bring in money? How could I add value to someone else's day? Of course, from a law of attraction perspective as well, this energy of fun and playfulness around the topic of money is going to call in much more abundance than living from a place of "there's never enough."
It's also worth noting that I recorded lots of things that are of value but perhaps weren't money because, let's face it, money is just a means of exchanging value for value, it's not wealth in and of itself. This would be things like coming home to find that my partner, Grahame, had spent the whole day clearing out and tidying the garden for me. Or my beautiful friends sharing my business posts on Facebook or connecting me up with new networks. When you place your attention on how much abundance is coming into your life, you'll be blown away with how much love is waiting for you!
You know all those beautiful, amazing, incredible things you want to manifest in your life? The things you've dreamt of for years, held close to your heart and pinned to your vision board? No doubt you've asked the Universe for them many times, but if they are failing to show up in your life then you might be missing one vital step.
ASKING OTHER PEOPLE! If you're on a spiritual journey, chances are you've gotten pretty good at asking the Universe for things - but the truth is that the universe works through people. Miracles and magic are not performed by a being outside of you waiting in the sky to grant wishes. It is an force that works through you when you live in the energy of what you want to attract. When you're in this space then the law of attraction will send you people and circumstances to help you in manifesting what you desire. But - you need to take some aligned action and start asking the people who can assist you in fulfilling your dreams. We've become pretty good at being a self sufficient society and "asking for help" has often been portrayed as weak or that we must be lacking something if we can't do it ourselves.
Which is total bullshit. "No man is an island", as poet John Donne would say, and with this many people populating the globe it's time to let go of the tired notion that we are not all here to help serve and love each other. Most of us don't ask other people for things because we don't want to seem "less than" or we're worried that they'll say no. Well....if they do, realistically what's the worst that's going to happen? You'll never know if you don't ask and most of us are missing out on so many opportunities by assuming we already know the answer.
The reason asking is so powerful is inherent in the etymology of the name, because although we tend to think of it as a question, the Hebrew origin of the word actually meant to "claim" something, so asking for something was stating your claim to making that request happen. In the Bible it is said "Ask, and you shall receive." Several thousand years later Abraham Hicks wrote "Ask, and it is given." What's my point? When you are in the energy of what you want and you actually ask for it, consider it done. Whatever you want is already on the truck, and on its way to you.
If you want some more insight into the power of asking, check out the book "The Aladdin Factor". It gives so many examples of famous and successful people who have got to where they want to be by asking for what they want. When it comes to manifesting anything in life, this book gives a great blueprint:
"First, you have to figure out what you want. Second, you have to decide that you deserve it. Third, you have to believe you can get it. And fourth, you have to have the guts to ask for it." - Barbara de Angelis, "The Aladdin Factor"
So who you can you share your dream with today and who can you ask for help? There are a lot of genies in the world waiting to make your wishes come true - all you have to do is ask!
A lot of us are struggling with the pace of modern life and the way it revolves around work and the office. Yeah, of course, there are people who are rockstars in their niches who love spending 10 hours a day doing what they do, but unfortunately, these people are the exception. Most of us have ended up working hard and getting into debt to fund a career that we thought would make us feel successful and abundant, when in reality we've ended up feeling stressed and anxious.... and with no idea how to change it. Most of us don't have a plan B. After all, if you were brought up to work hard, get the degree and 'make something of yourself' you weren't supposed to need one. But as more and more people around us are trying to deal with panic attacks, popping antidepressants, developing irritable bowel disease or just generally losing their zest for life, the question that's coming up for a lot of us is "Is this really worth it?"
If I'm too exhausted from work to socialise with my friends, is this really worth it? If stress is eating away at my gut lining and now I can't eat croissants, is it really worth it? If my sex life is non existent because I can't lie down without falling asleep, is it really worth it? If I'm not the happiest, healthiest and most peaceful, loved-up version of myself, is this really worth it?
It's easy to feel hopeless or resigned when we look at our current way of working and think that's just "the way it is"...but it isn't. When the pain point is big enough and enough people desire a change, "the way things are" starts to change. And it's changing at the moment. People want to spend more time with their family and loved ones. People want to start buying more ethically and supporting local farmers and growers. People want to experience travel and cultures and new ways of thinking rather than settling down and paying off a huge mortgage.
It's not necessarily about quitting your job or doing anything radical; it's about designing a balanced life that keeps you happy and healthy.
You're not broken if you don't want 'the norm' and the daily grind - the tides are turning and all you need to do to is listen to your heart when it tells you that something isn't working.
I know that while you might know that your life isn't working for you, you might not know what to do about it. It can be so frustrating to realise that you don't want what you have but to also have no clarity about how to get to a place of happiness and inner peace. That's why I want to share with you the The Ideal Day exercise. This was one of the first exercises I did on my path to easing out of 9-5 work. It is life-changing, game-changing and thought-changing. I seriously can't recommend it enough. Everything that changed in my life stemmed from this exercise. Even if you're someone who normally hates journalling or thinks that these exercises are 'hard work' at best or 'new age fluff' at worst, I really recommend you give it a go. Here's how:
The Ideal Day exercise
Get out a pen and a journal and write down your ideal day. Imagine your day as if anything was possible and write down, in the present tense, what you are doing. What time do you wake up? Who do you wake up next to? What kind of bed do you wake up in? What do you see around you? What does the bedroom look like? Be as detailed as possible about what you want to see and experience. What do you do when you get up? Do you exercise? Do you live near a beach that you go for a walk on? Do you have a dog that you take with you? Maybe you go to a yoga class every morning at the beautiful studio down the street instead of going for a walk. There are no 'shoulds' here, no 'right or wrong', just whatever you want in your ideal day. How does your body feel? Are you healthy, energised, toned, slim? What do you eat for breakfast and who do you share breakfast with? What does your ideal house look like? When you work, what kind of work are you doing? Why are you excited to do it? How does it inspire and challenge you? Who do you get to help through your work? Who do you get the pleasure of networking and creating with by doing your work? What difference are you making in the world? What do you do for fun in your day? What do you do to relax? What travel do you have planned? What events, conferences, music festivals, or trips are you looking forward to in your near future. Write everything in the present tense and don't allow your rational mind to place limits on your ideal day based on time or money. Imagine you have all the resources possible to create whatever you want. Fill out every hour of your day until you go to bed.
Looking over your list, what's ONE action step you could take now to move you closer to your ideal life? For example, if you want to walk on the beach every morning, can you choose to do that now? Even if it's only a couple of days a week? Can you move closer to the beach? Perhaps you can start only make it on the weekends at this stage... but you could put an image of someone walking on the beach on your vision board and some shells on your nightstand. You could download an audio of beach sounds and listen to it as you walk around your block in the morning. Step into the experience of your ideal day and I promise that one day at a time, your reality will shift to match that which is on your page. The more you believe it, the more you feel the emotion of having it, the faster it will come to you.
Be courageous: leave a comment with the one action step you will take to move you from your current reality to your Ideal Day. If you're going to create a big life you need a support team to see your desires and cheer you on.
and of course, if you need any extra support to move in the direction of your dreams then contact me for a chat!