This past weekend I went down to the Body Mind Spirit Festival in Addington, Christchurch. This is a 2 day event, with 3 floors of all things holistic and metaphysical: tarot card readers, psychics, reiki, massage, intuitive coaches, crystal shops - you can imagine the type of vibe!
Ever since I first discovered this festival in my early twenties, I've loved going along to it. As someone who was magnetised to things like earth religions, wicca and nature spirituality when I was about 15 years old, finding an event like this felt like a massive relief to my soul. I'm not the only one! It's not just me who feels that there must be something more! There's other weird people out there who believe in magic!
I have immense gratitude for the creation of this event, because any setting that brings together like minded people (whatever your jam is) brings a sense of feeling understood and accepted as well.
There can be a kind of dark side to self help when we're not feeling balanced within ourselves or we've fallen out of self trust. Let's face it, many people come to spirituality after a particularly challenging time in their lives and unfortunately, some people do take advantage of that. We all feel broken at times, because that's the nature of the human experience. As Rumi said, "The would is the place where the light enters you." Our wounds show us where we need to love ourselves more and they are the guides in our own self healing. They are not a flaw that has to be eradicated so you can finally feel "perfect".
Now, I'm a massive believer that we all contribute to each other's success. I love working with coaches, counsellors and yoga teachers who can help guide me to better understand what my body, mind and spirit are trying to tell me. There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking for help or needing support (actually, I think we could all do with being a bit more willing to admit we need help). But there is something completely heartbreaking when we believe that the answer to our happiness lies anywhere else but within our own heart.
I know of someone who has been told by a palm reader that they'd never get married. I had someone tell me that I had blocks from a past life that only they could remove (and of course, if I didn't get them removed then I was doomed to failure in my professional life). When you are at an emotionally fragile time in your life, it's really easy to give your power away to someone who seems to be more certain about the way the world works than you are. But no one is more special or more powerful than you. No one knows you better than you do. Not your doctor, not your tarot card reader and not your husband / best friend. If anyone is giving you advice that doesn't feel right for you - act on that feeling.
In both personal and professional relationships, find people who see you as the love that you are... that happens to have a few wounds. Be open to their perspective, but only if it resonates with you and it takes you to a place of more openness, acceptance and love.
We live in a world of qualifications, hierarchy and 'experts' but truthfully no one is more special than anyone else and no one is more qualified than you to know what you need in this moment.
Your struggle is showing you where you need to love yourself more and is an opportunity to build your self trust. Are you listening to what your body, mind or spirit is trying to get you to hear?