Your life is about progress, not perfection.
After hearing this from both a good friend and a business mentor this past week, it's become my mantra: "Progress, not perfection." We live in a culture where we are constantly chasing perfection, success and achieving more, more more... and in that environment it's really easy to let perfectionism derail us from both our happiness and our sense of achievement.
Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it's often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction and life paralysis." - Brene Brown
It could be in our weight loss, in our career, in our finances, the fact that we are single and we think we should be married by now...perfectionism comes in lots of different shades of crap. Not only does this type of thinking steal our happiness and create huge amounts of insecurity and anxiety within us, it also starts a pattern of negative thoughts that bring other negative thoughts to the party. When we are thinking that we are not enough, we attract more of not enough. After all, how can we love our appearance when we're constantly telling ourselves that we're not thin enough? How can we expect people to pay us well for our work if we don't value it ourselves? How can we create health when we keep berating ourselves for eating that whole tub of ice cream two days ago?
Perfectionism is a trap I fall into A LOT. In fact, I think it's the tool my ego probably uses the most on me to keep me from feeling worthy and happy. I have such big visions for my life, which is awesome, but while my spirit will cheer me on every step of the way, my ego wants to remind me that I still have a long way to go.
Here's how to dump perfectionism and start dating progress
If you have a toxic relationship with perfectionism, here are a few simple things you can do to move beyond the energy of not being good enough and start celebrating how far you've come: