In this generation we have lots and lots of options. Will we get a mortgage or build a tiny home? Will we have babies or use the extra money to travel? Will we get married, or do I really just want an expensive new dress and a big party?
Unlike our parents' or grandparents' generations, nothing is really mapped out for us anymore. Life is no longer a case of getting married, getting mortgaged and getting maternal. For most of us, the world is our oyster and we can create it any way we want to.
Enter the quarter life crisis, paralysis by analysis and massive FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out). Sometimes the world is throwing so many options at us it's hard to know whether or not we're making the 'right' decision. That's an impossible question and truthfully you can probably only answer that by altering the question to: "Is this going to be the right decision for me?"
After all, everyone is going to have a different opinion on whether you should save for a rainy day or take that once in a lifetime trip to Costa Rica, but only you will have to live with the decision. Only you will have gained or missed out on experiences and you are the only person who will have to make peace with whatever decision you make. So how do you make the decision that's right for you?
Start having dates with your intuition
"The more alone time you have, the more you'll get to know yourself. The more you get to know yourself, the more you'll know what you really want (vs. what the world wants from you) and obviously, the more you know what you really want, the easier it's going to be to make the right decision for you."
Most importantly, MAKE the decision
I'm going to bust out the University Latin (because God knows, I don't get many opportunities to practice that skill) and fill you in on the root of the word 'decide'. It comes from 'decidere' which means to 'cut off' - so to decide is to literally cut off all other options. Scary? Sure. That's why we often don't want to go there. But also... freeing. Once you have made a choice, all of your focus and resources can go in one direction.
And for the record, I don't really believe that you can ever make the 'wrong' decision. If you have checked in with your intuition and made a choice that doesn't go the way you thought it would, trust that by taking this path you have learned a lot of skills that you'll need later on. You'll have learned about your own capacity and resilience, and you'll also be building far more clarity around what you do and don't want. I believe that we are always internally programmed to have an amazing life, and if we do make a decision that seems to pull us off course, our internal GPS will show us another way of getting there. All you need to start the journey is Trust - trust in yourself rather than the conflicting voices of the world.